Sh*t happens! It is a part of living life and it can be good, bad or ugly – and sometimes, it’s all three at once! If we ignore the bad and the ugly they can become wounds and all too often it’s our emotional experiences that we bottle up, ignore, hide or repress.
I recently posted this quote on the ART Your Life Facebook Page and it sums up what we gorgeous humans do with emotional pain.
“Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside. Pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories and make peace with them.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant
Pretty powerful isn’t it?
Have you got a bandage in the form of over-eating, over-working, over-thinking, over-reacting, drinking too much, smoking or doing drugs?
Anything that we ‘over’ do is a form of a bandage. It represses the emotion that we do not want to feel and it holds pain at bay. However, the bandage only covers the wound; it does not heal the wound.
Getting your hands dirty and delving in to you – who you are, what you feel, what you’ve experienced getting real with your past is key.
So you may be wondering … ‘OK Catie. How the hell do I do that?’ And my response would be to join an ART Your Life program 🙂 … and in the meantime my advice is to start a journal and write, draw or make notes. Re-connect with nature, meditate, share, be real with your friends and never be ashamed of what you have or have not experienced. You are not the sum of your experiences and none of us are our behaviour. Our behaviour is what we do – it is not WHO we are nor is it our intent.